The legal phase is over, Cole's killer received 30 years, 20 executed, with 10 on probation. But our journey is really only beginning. Now that all the "stuff" is over, we only have our own loss and grief to deal with. Someone I know approached me the other day and informed me that I just needed to get over it. My question is how do you just get over it? If only people would think before they open their mouth. My advise is for you to hold those who are precious close to you and appreciate who they are and what they mean in your life. Also, you don't have to say anything to those of us who have lost someone. A simply smile, touch on the arm, or I'm praying for you is sufficient.